Trying to talk to a Narcissist-Hard Lesson Learned

Today I'd like to talk about is there ever a good time to talk to your Narc? 

I had a weak moment in interacting with mine recently and truly I feel like I just got emotionally beaten up.  Even when you do your best to distance yourself in every way possible.  You've built walls beyond walls to protect your heart and your self-esteem, just being around a Narc causes extreme harm to your self image.  Fundamentally I realized in one sweeping moment by my reaction to his verbal/emotional abuse, even though it was subtle at first is never going to change.  They will never suddenly wake up one morning and feel bad for all the hurtful things they've said, the bad names they've called you, their rages against you because you show how vulnerable you are because of wanting them (your Narc) to realize if only they would stop.  If only they would consider your feelings, then you might be able to forgive them and things could get better.

I learned the hard way, the hardest way possible that with a Malignant Narcissist it will never EVER get better.  It's a losing battle.  Like wrestling with pigs, your the only one that gets hurt and dirty and as the saying goes, the Pig likes it.  It's just best to cut off and avoid them at all costs.  For me the cost might very well be my ability to trust another man in the future.  I dont know at this time. 

They are masterful at their ability to mirror normal people with normal emotions and feelings.  I'm considered  very empathetic and even I was fooled hook, line and sinker.  So dont ever think that the average Malignant Narc is lurking in corners and alleyways.  They are trolling internet dating sites, manufacturing elaborate lifestyles and outright lying to anyone and everyone they can get to.  That is the crux of the problem and the solution.  We just need to learn how to turn a deaf ear to these mirroring beasts disguised as humans.  Truly I cannot express the need to have no contact with Narcs.  You risk your very soul, your life, your future.  You risk YOU at such a fundamental level that if you dont get out, you probably never will.

Be Mindful and Don't Give the Narcissist a path back in to your LIFE!